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Yin & Young - EP41 - Filmmaker Jeff Man - Loneliness, Growth, Acceptance

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In Yin & Young episode 41, we chat with Jeff Man about filmmaking, mental health, and being more accepting.

HIGHLIGHTS:

  • Dating and loneliness.

  • Dan consumes podcasts in 2x

  • Jeff grew up in DC, which has a diverse population.

  • Parents grew up in Hong Kong.

  • Spoke Cantonese, Mandarin, and English as a kid. Ended up in ESL in kindergarten and resented it.

  • Watching Chinese films helped with his language skills.

  • Uncle was a big movie buff.

  • Has been in LA for 9 years. When Jeff first moved here, it was a hard transition. “LA is a very lonely city.”

  • Jeff’s boss encouraged him to make short films by giving him a $100 monthly budget. You can see all his films here: Jeff Man on Vimeo

    • Midday Crisis is about a depressed man who calls a suicide hotline; based on a personal experience.

    • Jeff’s short documentary “A Family Day”, follows his grandmother, who has Alzheimer’s, for one day.

    • Santa Claus, in which Jeff directs and acts in, two lonely people share a contentious X-mas dinner.

  • He loves documentaries as well as the narrative form.

  • Discussion gets deep into Invisibilia’s podcast - A Very Offensive Rom-Com

    • White male Asian female coupling

    • Asian male desirability

  • Everyone has their own preferences.

  • Wishes people had more self-awareness.

LANGUAGE CORNER

Chinese Internet Slang (fr. James) - 拉黑 (lāhēi) which is short for 拉到黑名單 (lādàohēimíngdān) - put on a blacklist

Mandarin (fr. Jeff) - 男子漢大丈夫流血不流淚 (nánzǐhàn dàzhàngfū liúxuè bù liúlèi) - real men shed blood, not tears [Jeff disagrees]

Japanese (fr. Dan) - 勿体無い (もったいない) - mottainai - wasteful/what a waste

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Yin & Young EP37 - Dating Coach Jeremy Jong

Merry Christmas Yin & Young listeners! Today, we're sharing a very special episode, particularly for those men looking for that special someone this holiday season and into the new year. James (aka Young) interviews Jeremy Jong, an experienced relationship and dating coach with a focus on helping Asian American men attract the women of their dreams.

Highlights:

  • Jeremy shares his strict Christian and Taiwanese tiger mom upbringing.

  • Focus on inner work and keystone habits.

  • Dealing with anxiety and toxic/sexual shame.

  • Why the focus on the Asian American heterosexual male audience.

  • Being proud of Asian culture and who you are.

  • Healthy sexuality.

  • Use the testing mindset: Don’t over intellectualize, just go out there and practice.

  • Compulsive pick up versus genuinely wanting to talk to a woman.

For more info about Jeremy Jong:

  • Website: https://jeremyjong.com/

  • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/fearlessasianman/

Language Corner:

  • Spanish: te ves bien - you look good

  • Mandarin: 泡妞 - pao4 niu1 - pick up chicks

Yin & Young links:

* Main Website: http://www.jamesyshih.com/yin-young-podcast/

* iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/yin-young-podcast-jys/id1185421015?mt=2

* Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yinyoungpodcast/

* YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkvtVW6pVPeKFn7H_6ai8lA?

* Stitcher - https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/yin-young-podcast

Yin & Young EP36 - Don't Just Settle

Full video of Yin & Young EP36. Note: Video cuts out at 46:12, audio continues.

Yin & Young are back with a new podcast, the two of them revisit important topics and Young shares new stories:

Catching up on what we've been doing.

Yin got his Certified Scrum Master

Talking about taxes and specialization

Discussion turns toward natural talent and effort

We go over Young's dating life: the Pharmacist and the Waitress

What age difference is too great?

Talk about interracial relationships

How it bothers us sometimes to meet Asian women who won't date Asian men

Language Corner:

Japanese - 有り難迷惑 - arigata meiwaku: feeling you get when someone offers unwelcome assistance and complicates matters, but you feel obligated to feel grateful because their intentions are pure.

Mandarin:

勸君莫惜金縷衣

勸君惜取少年時。

花開堪折直須折

莫待無花空折枝。

quàn jūn mò xī jīn lǚ yī

quàn jūn xī qǔ shàonián shí.

huā kāi kān zhé zhí xū zhé

mò dài wú huā kōng zhé zhī

Cherish not, robes embroidered in gold thread;
Cherish the days of your youth instead.
Pluck flowers while they’re still in bloom, 
Lest you pluck but bare branches.

Yin & Young links:

* Main Website: http://www.jamesyshih.com/yin-young-podcast/

* iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/yin-young-podcast-jys/id1185421015?mt=2

* Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yinyoungpodcast/

* YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkvtVW6pVPeKFn7H_6ai8lA?

* Stitcher - https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/yin-young-podcast

Yin & Young Episode 29 - Cinema Corner & James' Trip to Korea and Taiwan

Yin & Young EP29 - FULL EPISODE

In this episode Y&Y review: The Last Jedi, Blade Runner 2049, and Lady Bird. James shares his adventures in Seoul, South Korea and Taiwan, and has a personal revelation.

CINEMA CORNER (Warning: Spoilers Below!): Time 00:00:33-00:34:45
The Last Jedi: 
* James had 3 issues with the movie: Luke, the jokes, and the romance between Finn and Rose.
* Dan agrees with a friend that the opening joke wasn't great. Dan doesn't like the physics or inconsistencies in physics: Holdo's suicide maneuver, bombers in space, and the end scene on Crait with Rose's speeder intercepting Finn's speeder.
* James doesn't like that Rey is so natural at wielding a lightsaber.
* Canto Bight scene’s totally useless.
* Anyone can use the force.

Blade Runner 2049:
* Dan - it's very racially monochrome, no diversity in the future. Didn't bother him, but it was shot beautifully. The movie was a little long.
* James - the use of Asian items without Asians. The film hypersexualizes women. Feels there’s a plot hole with the “real memory”. Still, an enjoyable film with some beautiful moments.

* Lady Bird:
James - reminded him of "Rushmore". Lots of teen angst and intelligent humor. A little salty a Californian wasn’t cast for the lead, but not a deal breaker. Not sure what Lady Bird's motivation is.
* Daniel - thought it was overrated, but enjoyed it.

JAMES’ TRIP TO SOUTH KOREA AND TAIWAN: starts 00:34:45 to the end
* James went to Taiwan for preproduction on his short film. Did some location scouting. Also shot a mini-short film while there.
* James tried Tinder in Taiwan. Got 4x more likes in Taiwan vs. in America.
* More dating opportunities for Asian American men.
* Had a great date with a Japanese girl he met at a Taipei intersection. Focused on getting to know her emotionally.
* Seoul, Korea - Super cold weather. James doesn't speak Korean. Hung out with Teo. Met with Seng and his wife, had Korean BBQ. Had ginger chicken soup. Stayed in 3 different areas of Seoul: Hongdae (홍대/弘大), Gyeongbokgung (경복궁/景福宮), Sadang (사당/舍堂).  
* Saw a gorgeous girl at the restaurant and gave her his Kakao username. Was one of the scariest moments he ever had.
* At another restaurant, James sees an attractive girl  and asked her for directions to the palace. The girl writes detailed directions for James and lets her food get cold, despite his polite protestations. 
* Highlight of the trip: At his 3rd Airbnb, joins a party of young artists/creatives. Screens his short film "Painting Hands" and others . (films at www.jamesyshih.com)
* He talks to some girls at a bar with no success.
* James realizes the reason why he seeks women's affection.

Memorable Quotes:
Dan: All my grievances with “The Last Jedi” have to do with physics.

Teacher: With all these women, you’re posing to them a question…
James: Am I lovable?
Teacher: You have to answer that for yourself.

Language Corner:
Japanese - 今は今しかない - imawaimashikanai - There is only now, now.
Mandarin - 活在當下 - huó zài dāngxià - Live in the moment.

Yin & Young links:
* Main Website: http://www.jamesyshih.com/yin-young-podcast/
* iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/yin-young-podcast-jys/id1185421015?mt=2
* Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yinyoungpodcast/
* YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkvtVW6pVPeKFn7H_6ai8lA?
* Stitcher - https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/yin-young-podcast

Yin & Young EP29 (30 sec trailer).

Yin & Young LIVE EP01: Just a Bad Date?

Our first live podcast: "Just a Bad Date?".

We discuss with returning guests Laura and Aaron the nuances of coercion versus a "bad date". We delve into the spectrum of sexual assault and the issues with male/female communication.

Thank you all for the comments and questions!

Here's some of the articles/videos referenced in the podcast:

I went on a date with Aziz Ansari. It turned into the worst night of my life
https://babe.net/…/01/13/aziz-ansari-28…

The Humiliation of Aziz Ansari
https://www.theatlantic.com/…/t…/550541/

Aziz Ansari and the Paradox of ‘No’
https://www.theatlantic.com/…/…/550556/…

Five women accuse actor James Franco of inappropriate or sexually exploitative behavior
http://www.latimes.com/…/la-fi-ct-james…

Jenny Yang, Comic/Writer - Live stream on Aziz Ansari, #MeToo and more. 
https://www.facebook.com/jennyyang1/posts/10155988133329188