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Yin & Young - EP41 - Filmmaker Jeff Man - Loneliness, Growth, Acceptance

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In Yin & Young episode 41, we chat with Jeff Man about filmmaking, mental health, and being more accepting.

HIGHLIGHTS:

  • Dating and loneliness.

  • Dan consumes podcasts in 2x

  • Jeff grew up in DC, which has a diverse population.

  • Parents grew up in Hong Kong.

  • Spoke Cantonese, Mandarin, and English as a kid. Ended up in ESL in kindergarten and resented it.

  • Watching Chinese films helped with his language skills.

  • Uncle was a big movie buff.

  • Has been in LA for 9 years. When Jeff first moved here, it was a hard transition. “LA is a very lonely city.”

  • Jeff’s boss encouraged him to make short films by giving him a $100 monthly budget. You can see all his films here: Jeff Man on Vimeo

    • Midday Crisis is about a depressed man who calls a suicide hotline; based on a personal experience.

    • Jeff’s short documentary “A Family Day”, follows his grandmother, who has Alzheimer’s, for one day.

    • Santa Claus, in which Jeff directs and acts in, two lonely people share a contentious X-mas dinner.

  • He loves documentaries as well as the narrative form.

  • Discussion gets deep into Invisibilia’s podcast - A Very Offensive Rom-Com

    • White male Asian female coupling

    • Asian male desirability

  • Everyone has their own preferences.

  • Wishes people had more self-awareness.

LANGUAGE CORNER

Chinese Internet Slang (fr. James) - 拉黑 (lāhēi) which is short for 拉到黑名單 (lādàohēimíngdān) - put on a blacklist

Mandarin (fr. Jeff) - 男子漢大丈夫流血不流淚 (nánzǐhàn dàzhàngfū liúxuè bù liúlèi) - real men shed blood, not tears [Jeff disagrees]

Japanese (fr. Dan) - 勿体無い (もったいない) - mottainai - wasteful/what a waste

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Here's some of the articles/videos referenced in the podcast:

I went on a date with Aziz Ansari. It turned into the worst night of my life
https://babe.net/…/01/13/aziz-ansari-28…

The Humiliation of Aziz Ansari
https://www.theatlantic.com/…/t…/550541/

Aziz Ansari and the Paradox of ‘No’
https://www.theatlantic.com/…/…/550556/…

Five women accuse actor James Franco of inappropriate or sexually exploitative behavior
http://www.latimes.com/…/la-fi-ct-james…

Jenny Yang, Comic/Writer - Live stream on Aziz Ansari, #MeToo and more. 
https://www.facebook.com/jennyyang1/posts/10155988133329188