Asian American

Yin & Young EP37 - Dating Coach Jeremy Jong

Merry Christmas Yin & Young listeners! Today, we're sharing a very special episode, particularly for those men looking for that special someone this holiday season and into the new year. James (aka Young) interviews Jeremy Jong, an experienced relationship and dating coach with a focus on helping Asian American men attract the women of their dreams.

Highlights:

  • Jeremy shares his strict Christian and Taiwanese tiger mom upbringing.

  • Focus on inner work and keystone habits.

  • Dealing with anxiety and toxic/sexual shame.

  • Why the focus on the Asian American heterosexual male audience.

  • Being proud of Asian culture and who you are.

  • Healthy sexuality.

  • Use the testing mindset: Don’t over intellectualize, just go out there and practice.

  • Compulsive pick up versus genuinely wanting to talk to a woman.

For more info about Jeremy Jong:

  • Website: https://jeremyjong.com/

  • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/fearlessasianman/

Language Corner:

  • Spanish: te ves bien - you look good

  • Mandarin: 泡妞 - pao4 niu1 - pick up chicks

Yin & Young links:

* Main Website: http://www.jamesyshih.com/yin-young-podcast/

* iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/yin-young-podcast-jys/id1185421015?mt=2

* Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yinyoungpodcast/

* YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkvtVW6pVPeKFn7H_6ai8lA?

* Stitcher - https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/yin-young-podcast

Yin & Young EP36 - Don't Just Settle

Full video of Yin & Young EP36. Note: Video cuts out at 46:12, audio continues.

Yin & Young are back with a new podcast, the two of them revisit important topics and Young shares new stories:

Catching up on what we've been doing.

Yin got his Certified Scrum Master

Talking about taxes and specialization

Discussion turns toward natural talent and effort

We go over Young's dating life: the Pharmacist and the Waitress

What age difference is too great?

Talk about interracial relationships

How it bothers us sometimes to meet Asian women who won't date Asian men

Language Corner:

Japanese - 有り難迷惑 - arigata meiwaku: feeling you get when someone offers unwelcome assistance and complicates matters, but you feel obligated to feel grateful because their intentions are pure.

Mandarin:

勸君莫惜金縷衣

勸君惜取少年時。

花開堪折直須折

莫待無花空折枝。

quàn jūn mò xī jīn lǚ yī

quàn jūn xī qǔ shàonián shí.

huā kāi kān zhé zhí xū zhé

mò dài wú huā kōng zhé zhī

Cherish not, robes embroidered in gold thread;
Cherish the days of your youth instead.
Pluck flowers while they’re still in bloom, 
Lest you pluck but bare branches.

Yin & Young links:

* Main Website: http://www.jamesyshih.com/yin-young-podcast/

* iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/yin-young-podcast-jys/id1185421015?mt=2

* Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yinyoungpodcast/

* YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkvtVW6pVPeKFn7H_6ai8lA?

* Stitcher - https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/yin-young-podcast

Yin & Young EP35 - Writer/Director Alex Chu - Part 1

Welcome back to Yin & Young the podcast! In this episode we spoke with Alex Chu, the writer and director of “For Izzy” (links below), an amazing film on the film circuit that delves into mental disorder, drug abuse, and the parent-child relationship in Asian American families. We delve into Alex's upbringing, thoughts on Asian representation, and his journey into filmmaking. Tiger Sheu returns as our special guest host!

Part 1: Growing Up (full episode in Youtube link above)

- Alex is originally from Canada and also spent part of his childhood in Libya due to his dad's job.

- Son of Taiwanese parents.

- Sent back to Canada for school.

- Regrets not learning the local language when living abroad.

- Lived in Asia (Hong Kong area) for 3 years

- Speaks English and Mandarin

- Grew up watching 80s films, lots of Arnold movies, Spielberg movies

- Growing up in Canada was fine, no overt racism, but did feel certain pressures like not wanting to speak Mandarin in public.

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"For Izzy" links:

website - http://forizzy.com

FB - https://www.facebook.com/forizzythemovie

IG - https://www.instagram.com/forizzythemovie/

TW - https://twitter.com/forizzythemovie

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Yin & Young links:

* Main Website: http://www.jamesyshih.com/yin-young-podcast/

* iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/yin-young-podcast-jys/id1185421015?mt=2

* Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yinyoungpodcast/

* YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkvtVW6pVPeKFn7H_6ai8lA?

* Stitcher - https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/yin-young-podcast

Yin & Young EP34 - Rapper Von Aizen - Part 1

For part 2 go here: https://youtu.be/eHm7QO0C2To

Joint podcast with Von Aizen, host of the Voncast Show!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0dhy8DaPbSqYFaVqLJuUKA

Yin & Young are back with a two part interview with Rapper, Podcaster, Asian American Studies graduate Von Aizen!

* Intro to Yin and Young’s background
* Von – son of Filipino immigrants, moved around California from a young age.
* Von – Didn’t live with his parents in his first 7 years of life. Didn’t have a strong bond at first.
* Von and James both had an emo music phase.
* Von also got deep into rap.
* Von's music: https://fivese7encollective.com/von-aizen/

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Yin & Young links:
* Main Website: http://www.jamesyshih.com/yin-young-podcast/
* iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/yin-young-podcast-jys/id1185421015?mt=2
* Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yinyoungpodcast/
* YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkvtVW6pVPeKFn7H_6ai8lA?
* Stitcher - https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/yin-young-podcast

Yin & Young EP32 - Film Talk and Death & Dating in Taiwan

Yin & Young discuss film and Young returns to Taiwan for a funeral and revisits a potential love.

Cinema Corner/Film Talk:
INFINITY WAR 00:00 - 14:10
* Dan liked that every hero's scene wasn't shortchanged.
* James was fairly positive about the film, you can listen to his movie debate on The Movie Standoff.
* Picking nits about some of the relationships of the movie.
* Thanos vs Apocalypse (X-Men)
* Apocalypse looked too cartoonish
SOLO  14:10 - 22:15
* ”Solo" James didn't enjoy the movie as much as "The Last Jedi".
* Dan thinks Kathleen Kennedy has lost her touch.
* There are no real stakes.

Back to Taiwan 22:15 - 32:00
The Funeral
* James went back to Taiwan to pay last respects to his grandmother.
* James reconnected with his mom after the funeral and was glad to see his mother's interactions with her siblings.

The Date in Taiwan 32:00 - 59:00
* James went on a date and was overthinking things. (小劇場 - xiao3ju4chang3 - lit. small stage play, but colloquially means “to overthink”)
* Date 1: They were sitting at Shida park and chatted, but James regrets not pushing things more.
* James utilized visualization techniques prior to his next date that helped him be more confident and bold and ask her back to his place.
* While they are watching a movie, James makes a move.
    * Listen for the outcome =)
* James gets his question answered.
* Dan shares his past dating experiences.
* James shares a time he got high.

Approaching Women 59:00 - 1:12:20
* James approaches a woman in a parking lot. Learns that he needs to be less creepy.
* Dan gives his approach tips.
* Attachment theory: Anxious, Avoidant, Secure
* James believes he deserves someone that’s emotionally stable.

Language Corner: 1:12:20 - 1:17:06
* 豁然開朗 - Huo4ran2kai1lang2 - suddenly see the light, a lyric from a song by Touming Magazine (透明雜誌).
* めぐら - megura - blinded by love

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Yin & Young links:
* Main Website: http://www.jamesyshih.com/yin-young-podcast/
* iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/yin-young-podcast-jys/id1185421015?mt=2
* Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yinyoungpodcast/
* YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkvtVW6pVPeKFn7H_6ai8lA?
* Stitcher - https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/yin-young-podcast

Yin & Young Episode 29 - Cinema Corner & James' Trip to Korea and Taiwan

Yin & Young EP29 - FULL EPISODE

In this episode Y&Y review: The Last Jedi, Blade Runner 2049, and Lady Bird. James shares his adventures in Seoul, South Korea and Taiwan, and has a personal revelation.

CINEMA CORNER (Warning: Spoilers Below!): Time 00:00:33-00:34:45
The Last Jedi: 
* James had 3 issues with the movie: Luke, the jokes, and the romance between Finn and Rose.
* Dan agrees with a friend that the opening joke wasn't great. Dan doesn't like the physics or inconsistencies in physics: Holdo's suicide maneuver, bombers in space, and the end scene on Crait with Rose's speeder intercepting Finn's speeder.
* James doesn't like that Rey is so natural at wielding a lightsaber.
* Canto Bight scene’s totally useless.
* Anyone can use the force.

Blade Runner 2049:
* Dan - it's very racially monochrome, no diversity in the future. Didn't bother him, but it was shot beautifully. The movie was a little long.
* James - the use of Asian items without Asians. The film hypersexualizes women. Feels there’s a plot hole with the “real memory”. Still, an enjoyable film with some beautiful moments.

* Lady Bird:
James - reminded him of "Rushmore". Lots of teen angst and intelligent humor. A little salty a Californian wasn’t cast for the lead, but not a deal breaker. Not sure what Lady Bird's motivation is.
* Daniel - thought it was overrated, but enjoyed it.

JAMES’ TRIP TO SOUTH KOREA AND TAIWAN: starts 00:34:45 to the end
* James went to Taiwan for preproduction on his short film. Did some location scouting. Also shot a mini-short film while there.
* James tried Tinder in Taiwan. Got 4x more likes in Taiwan vs. in America.
* More dating opportunities for Asian American men.
* Had a great date with a Japanese girl he met at a Taipei intersection. Focused on getting to know her emotionally.
* Seoul, Korea - Super cold weather. James doesn't speak Korean. Hung out with Teo. Met with Seng and his wife, had Korean BBQ. Had ginger chicken soup. Stayed in 3 different areas of Seoul: Hongdae (홍대/弘大), Gyeongbokgung (경복궁/景福宮), Sadang (사당/舍堂).  
* Saw a gorgeous girl at the restaurant and gave her his Kakao username. Was one of the scariest moments he ever had.
* At another restaurant, James sees an attractive girl  and asked her for directions to the palace. The girl writes detailed directions for James and lets her food get cold, despite his polite protestations. 
* Highlight of the trip: At his 3rd Airbnb, joins a party of young artists/creatives. Screens his short film "Painting Hands" and others . (films at www.jamesyshih.com)
* He talks to some girls at a bar with no success.
* James realizes the reason why he seeks women's affection.

Memorable Quotes:
Dan: All my grievances with “The Last Jedi” have to do with physics.

Teacher: With all these women, you’re posing to them a question…
James: Am I lovable?
Teacher: You have to answer that for yourself.

Language Corner:
Japanese - 今は今しかない - imawaimashikanai - There is only now, now.
Mandarin - 活在當下 - huó zài dāngxià - Live in the moment.

Yin & Young links:
* Main Website: http://www.jamesyshih.com/yin-young-podcast/
* iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/yin-young-podcast-jys/id1185421015?mt=2
* Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yinyoungpodcast/
* YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkvtVW6pVPeKFn7H_6ai8lA?
* Stitcher - https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/yin-young-podcast

Yin & Young EP29 (30 sec trailer).

Yin & Young LIVE EP01: Just a Bad Date?

Our first live podcast: "Just a Bad Date?".

We discuss with returning guests Laura and Aaron the nuances of coercion versus a "bad date". We delve into the spectrum of sexual assault and the issues with male/female communication.

Thank you all for the comments and questions!

Here's some of the articles/videos referenced in the podcast:

I went on a date with Aziz Ansari. It turned into the worst night of my life
https://babe.net/…/01/13/aziz-ansari-28…

The Humiliation of Aziz Ansari
https://www.theatlantic.com/…/t…/550541/

Aziz Ansari and the Paradox of ‘No’
https://www.theatlantic.com/…/…/550556/…

Five women accuse actor James Franco of inappropriate or sexually exploitative behavior
http://www.latimes.com/…/la-fi-ct-james…

Jenny Yang, Comic/Writer - Live stream on Aziz Ansari, #MeToo and more. 
https://www.facebook.com/jennyyang1/posts/10155988133329188