He needs to wake up. He needs to understand that a girl will not solve all his problems.
She’s not a block that will fill the gap in his life.
No need to force that which does not fit.
He shouldn’t hate himself. He’s beautiful in his own flawed way.
That’s the best thing he could ever do for himself.
He can be the person he’s always wanted to be, starting now.
Don’t rely on others to do that for you, you have to do that for yourself.